Comments on: How we handle our emotional response to conflict http://www.edmitchell.co.uk/blog/2010/03/21/how-we-handle-our-emotional-response-to-conflict/ Half web producer, half group facilitator. Groups support: online and in the physical world. Sat, 01 Oct 2011 07:24:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Darren Hayward http://www.edmitchell.co.uk/blog/2010/03/21/how-we-handle-our-emotional-response-to-conflict/comment-page-1/#comment-8021 Darren Hayward Sat, 01 Oct 2011 07:24:55 +0000 http://www.edmitchell.co.uk/blog/?p=499#comment-8021 Excellent post. Found it very informative thank you! Whenever you're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude. Excellent post. Found it very informative thank you! Whenever you’re in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude.

]]> By: kitty de bruin http://www.edmitchell.co.uk/blog/2010/03/21/how-we-handle-our-emotional-response-to-conflict/comment-page-1/#comment-5057 kitty de bruin Mon, 13 Dec 2010 12:11:53 +0000 http://www.edmitchell.co.uk/blog/?p=499#comment-5057 I'm not running a community, just a portal for france, in our "free" time together with my webmaster who has more distance to my passion transition, but it leaded nearly to a burnout, but fortunatly my husband said stop, no courses, no emails; just a few days in the mountains to see the perspective again. And that helped, now i plan my days more equilibre, and what is not done or answered will wait, less pressure, more time to enjoy the beautifull nature around us, that's why we choose this place, and not to spend the whole day behind the PC I’m not running a community, just a portal for france, in our “free” time together with my webmaster who has more distance to my passion transition, but it leaded nearly to a burnout, but fortunatly my husband said stop, no courses, no emails; just a few days in the mountains to see the perspective again. And that helped, now i plan my days more equilibre, and what is not done or answered will wait, less pressure, more time to enjoy the beautifull nature around us, that’s why we choose this place, and not to spend the whole day behind the PC

]]> By: Mike Zeidler http://www.edmitchell.co.uk/blog/2010/03/21/how-we-handle-our-emotional-response-to-conflict/comment-page-1/#comment-4468 Mike Zeidler Wed, 07 Apr 2010 06:26:36 +0000 http://www.edmitchell.co.uk/blog/?p=499#comment-4468 Good questions Ed, and I think you're in pretty good shape to deal with this kind of thing because you're consciously articulating unconscious responses. I think the noticing is key to remaining safe - having said that, I'm not sure exactly what I do, but will try to pay special attention the next time I'm in a situation like that.... I agree with Matt about the focus on issue/purpose, and with Bern about the support of others to prepare in advance and unwind it all later. That's what mates are for. Good questions Ed, and I think you’re in pretty good shape to deal with this kind of thing because you’re consciously articulating unconscious responses. I think the noticing is key to remaining safe – having said that, I’m not sure exactly what I do, but will try to pay special attention the next time I’m in a situation like that….
I agree with Matt about the focus on issue/purpose, and with Bern about the support of others to prepare in advance and unwind it all later. That’s what mates are for.

]]> By: bern http://www.edmitchell.co.uk/blog/2010/03/21/how-we-handle-our-emotional-response-to-conflict/comment-page-1/#comment-4388 bern Mon, 22 Mar 2010 09:56:44 +0000 http://www.edmitchell.co.uk/blog/?p=499#comment-4388 Good post Ed. I guess this is when being part of a team is helpful - get it off your chest over lunch or a beer after work with people who understand the context. If that's not possible due to people working in remote locations, a virtual meeting spot is helpful. Good post Ed. I guess this is when being part of a team is helpful – get it off your chest over lunch or a beer after work with people who understand the context. If that’s not possible due to people working in remote locations, a virtual meeting spot is helpful.

]]> By: Matt Moore http://www.edmitchell.co.uk/blog/2010/03/21/how-we-handle-our-emotional-response-to-conflict/comment-page-1/#comment-4387 Matt Moore Sun, 21 Mar 2010 21:29:04 +0000 http://www.edmitchell.co.uk/blog/?p=499#comment-4387 I think one important thing to remember is that when working with communities (online or not), it's rarely ab0ut "us" - i.e. participants are often acting out their own concerns or issues. Of course, the more of ourselves we invest in our communities, the harder it is for us to differentiate the two. I think one important thing to remember is that when working with communities (online or not), it’s rarely ab0ut “us” – i.e. participants are often acting out their own concerns or issues.

Of course, the more of ourselves we invest in our communities, the harder it is for us to differentiate the two.

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