Ever since I was first pointed to him (as ‘the competition’ no less), we have had what I consider to be open, interesting, honest, learning conversations. The topics and deals range from business to life, banner swaps, conference seats, cafes, money and knowledge, all based on a thoughtful trust. I have benefited enormously from my relationship with him and hope there is mutuality.

One of his recent blog posts considering a post by Shawn Callahan, featured in his centenary newsletter, is a cracking example of David’s life view. It is about networking (which I have been known to be somewhat negative about in the past, ahem), and the ethics therein:

…Some people falsely see networking as unethical as they seem to think that networking is about making friends with other people for personal gain – they don’t quite understand that although its possible to behave like that – genuine networkers approach networking with a mindset of “mutual advantage” – they as much want to help the other person as they wish for help from them…

…It seems to me that we all have agendas; we all have the need, for good or for bad, to influence people; to get their buy-in on an idea or to obtain budget or resource from them. If we wish to get things done in life then we need to be good at gaining the support we need…

…But is persuasion or influence, inherently manipulative and unethical? Well of course not; so much depends on the intent. `But what is the yardstick? How do you question yourself to determine if you are being unethical or not?…

Gurteen post on ethics

Considering my relationship with David, he walks his talk, and sets an example for the rest of us. I’m not saying he’s some ‘guru’ (ghastly word) – he’s just a guy, getting on with his life, in an ethical and generous manner.

This has given me wholesome food for thought and is one part of a puzzle which is coming together for me at this very moment. I will do my utmost to maintain my optimism.

Thanks David and Happy Birthday!